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Would you lose the ability to love?

Sigmund Freud, the famous Austrian neurologist, stated that psychoanalysis seeks to “restore the person's ability to love and work.”

But how does someone lose their ability to love?

According to the father of psychoanalysis, this impossibility arises from certain internal conflicts that lead a person to disconnect from reality (beings and things that constitute it).

In this way, the mental energy or “libido” that should be interested in the outside world is withdrawn inside: thoughts, fantasies, etc.

However, for this to happen, the person must have suffered a lot in that external reality from which they are trying to escape.

For Freud, the fact of experiencing painful situations or having ideas of suffering in the face of what may happen in a certain future situation activates psychic mechanisms that defend us from pain.

One of these mechanisms is to withdraw.

Given this, psychoanalysis therapies then seek to construct the ghosts and ideas that revolve around that reality that seems so “hostile” to us.

For this reason, Freud spoke of “giving people back the ability to work.” In his texts, “working” does not only refer to paid work but also to the creation of a reality that we find rewarding.

For which, in addition, we need the other. Ergo, of love. Now, in the face of that love, Freud posed a dichotomy: “If you love, you suffer. If you don't love, you get sick."

From this space, I have written countless times that love does not have to hurt, but for that we must understand that love cannot do everything, it does not bring absolute happiness, it is not the only thing that is needed to live.

"There are many possible scenarios around love: the one that is not reciprocated, the one that is denied, the one that is feared of losing, the one that can make you touch heaven with your hands and hell with your toes, romantic or Hollywood love. All of them, beyond the great passion that can characterize them, have a touch of pain,” explains Ariana Cea, a surgeon with a specialty in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy.

But if we do not understand it, we run the risk of getting sick, that is, of not allowing ourselves to trust others (partner, family, friends, coworkers, neighbors) and falling into isolation and disconnection that annihilates our ability to love and work. .

For Cea, it is thanks to the ties with others that we become stronger emotionally speaking, although bringing us closer to others also makes us more vulnerable.

Therefore, if we believe that to get away from pain the best thing is to “not love” then we are wrong.

By: Jessica dos santos

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