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Since when do we marry for love?

La last column We talk about the love story between the American composer Leonard Bernstein and the Chilean-Costa Rican actress, Felicia Montealegre.

However, this was just one of thousands of marriages of convenience in human history.

In fact, this “marrying in love” thing is a recent custom. Historically, marriage has been more linked to economics than to love.

Most unions consisted of financial arrangements designed to cement powerful alliances, exchange, or acquire new land or property.

That is, there was neither mutual attraction nor consent of the parties. In fact, sometimes couples were engaged without even knowing each other.

Even when the bride and groom were from different countries, royalty applied the so-called “preliminary marriage” or “wedding by proxy”, which did not require the presence of the bride and groom.

Other times, at most, those involved were informed of the other's physical qualities and, from time to time, a portrait was sent to them.

For example, the portraits of Charles II could not hide his malformations and his two wives, the Frenchwoman María Luisa de Orleans and the German Mariana de Neoburgo, presented strong resistance.

On the other hand, Isabel la Católica received a medallion with a portrait of the then handsome Ferdinand of Aragon, which, without a doubt, predisposed her in favor of him and not her other suitor, the king of Portugal, a man 20 years older. that she

Before, age was not an impediment at all. Sometimes, marriages were negotiated from a very early age and children were prepared for their destiny, such as the famous case of the Scottish Mary Stuart, who was transferred to France in 1548, at only 6 years old, to be educated by his future in-laws Henry II and Catherine de' Medici.

At that time, they also got married and had children even when they were teenagers, despite the risk that this implied. In fact, half of the European sovereigns who married under 16 died before the age of thirty. 

It was not until the 18th century that some discontented voices began to be raised in favor of love.

Given this, conservatives blamed the growing popularity of romantic novels such as “Roxanne” by Daniel Defoe (1724) or “Pamela” by Samuel Richardson (1740), which spoke of “free will” or “personal feelings.”

The scandal was such that the governments decided to displace the church, which had governed this issue since the 13th century, and begin to legislate on it.

However, nothing could stop the age of enlightenment and the idea of ​​a union resulting from love became more and more prevalent.

In this way, already in the 1837th century, Queen Victoria of the United Kingdom (reigned from 1901 to XNUMX) and her Prince Albert openly defended the concept of love marriage.

Despite these advances, men imposed themselves as the breadwinners of the family, while women were redefined as domestic beings (housewives, mothers) and largely asexual.

So, despite the love, when men married they received an improved status by becoming “heads of the family,” but their wives only got a “master and lord” for life. 

Incidentally, it was not until the end of the 19th century that procreation began to be separated from marriage. Finally, neither consensual marriage nor love were enough: freedom and a sexual life that was satisfactory for both were required.

Even so, today, in countries like China or India, other ideas continue to prevail. A recent study titled ““What do Chinese people think about love and marriage?” concludes that “love is not only unnecessary, but even risky. Therefore, the most useful and important thing when choosing a spouse is a good education, a job and maybe also an apartment.”

And how many marriages of convenience do you know?

By: Jessica dos santos

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